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Tot tantrum
My daughter who just turned 2 throws tantrums only when my husband is around. He thinks its endearing when she does it for his attention but I find it embarrassing and frustrating. She listens to me and is well behaved as a two year old can be when Daddy isn't around. How can I have her like more often, I'm tired of being the bad guy (disciplinarian) all the time.
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I understand the "bad guy" syndrom. Sometimes I have to remind my husband that as the kids father he has the right to correct them too.
I would ask your husband to look into the future and ask him if that kind of behavior is going to be endearing at 14 years old??? He is allowing bad behaviors to develop and the longer they go on the harder thay are going to be to break. You are doing the right thing by setting boundries for her...way to go GOOD MOMMY. Kids need to know what is exceptable behavior and you are doing the right thing by teaching her that. Try not to feel like the bad guy. Also, you may want to try to leave the room or house when he is allowing this behavior to happen. The behavior may not bother him because you step in and stop it before it becomes uncontrolable. Maybe some time alone with her when she is throwing a tantrum will wake him up??
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Jodi
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Jodi
It sounds like you're being a wonderful parent to a great kid whose pushing those boundaries with Daddy. He has to set them too or it won't be long before he's looking at you, asking why doesn't our daughter listen to me? The boundaries have to be set about this time, and stick to your guns. It's no fun being the disciplinarian all the time, but at some point down the road, maybe when she's in college or when she has her own kids, she'll realize what a wonderful job you did by setting those boundaries (and maybe you'll get some unexpected phone call or note saying thanks, Mom.)
Does Daddy think it's endearing when she pitches a fit for your attention (or grandma,grandpa, etc), or has she given up that fight? If he reacts differently to those flares, then let him discipline her sometimes. I think Jodi's on to something, find a way to make him walk in your shoes for a while. Her temper tantrums will become less endearing faster that way. Until then, remember discipline is one of the ways we, as mothers, show our love and concern for our children's well-being. Don't be ashamed of it or bothered by being the bad guy. You're being a GOOD MOMMY!
What are you supose to do if your child acts the opposite. You are with her all day and she is a terror then daddy comes home and he doesn't believe that she acts like that during the day because she is a sweet angel to him? It is so frustrating and hard!