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spoiled baby
hhMy 3 month old son wants to be held all day and he doesn't sleep hardly at all during the day. He is not in pain. He wants to sleep only in my arms. Everytime I put him down he wakes up after a few minutes. I've tried everything. I rock him for 20 minutes and then put him down and he still wakes up.I don't know how to train him to sleep without me holding him. He crys histerically and it takes forever to calm him down after. He is a breastfed baby, could this be part of the problem? What should I do? Everyone tells me I spoiled him. He used to stay in his swing for a while but now he just wants to be held!
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I wouldn't listen to anyone that says you spoil him. I have read several books that say you cannot spoil a child if he is less than 6 months old. It is considered love and nurture. They are used to being held close from being in the womb. Have you tried one of those bears that imitate the sounds of the womb? Or try swadding him. JL
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Yes, the swaddling might work for him, I swaddled my kids until they were each about 4 or 5 months old. Once you get the hang of it, it's pretty simple.
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Hi There, flobee78:
I agree that there is no spoiling a newborn! Don't worry, eventually your baby will get used to being away from you when he sleeps. Just enjoy every moment since the time goes by so very fast! Best of luck in the New Year! Happy New Year!
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My daughter was also like that. She got very used to just being with me and around me. There were days I felt like I didn't get anything done while on maternity leave. I was constantly told that she was spoiled.
I agree with the other Moms that you can't spoil a baby. They just feel safe. Swaddling did help us tremendously. Otherwise maybe you can try a Moby wrap? That was also a God-send for us!
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Babies want to be loved, warm and feel safe. Usually there is a reason. Check to see if he is wet, if he has to burp or has gas, if he is warm enough. Swaddling helps. Allowing babies to cry and cry is not for me. There is nothing wrong with spoiling them and there is no such thing as too much attention. When they are not feeling well, they need extra care and attention. Have you tried the Baby Bjorn? It's great and allows you the freedom to do other things and have the baby close and comforted. Try taking the baby for walks in the carriage. The movement and rocking of the walker puts him to sleep. Then you can leave him in the walker at home to sleep. Being a mother you have to be able to multi-task. Rock with your feet and eat at the same time. Eventually he will sleep longer when he is ready. Enjoy.
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Before you decide to just deal with it please read the book Baby Wise. I know it's highly controversial but I have 3 kids and they all slept at least six hours at night by about 7 weeks of age. Just incase you were wondering I breast fed them all for the first six months. A paperback copy only cost about eight bucks and helped me so much.