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It sounds to me like she took you seriously when you said you only have one rule. You have lots of rules in your house. You just don't consider them rules because they're common sense. Unfortunately, common sense isn't that common anymore.

You need to talk with your daughter. Ask her if she thought her friend's behavior was acceptable. I'm sure she was nearly as shocked as you. Then talk about what is acceptable behavior when you visit a friend's house, or anywhere else. Talk about how her friend's bahavior made you both feel, what it made you think of her, and how you don't want people to feel like that or think that way because of your daughter's behavior.

Before the friend comes over again, lay out all the rules:
~No running in the house
~No jumping in the house
~No feet on the furniture
~Please and thank you required
~One snack after school, then no more until dinner
~No burping at the table
~If you accidently burp, cover your mouth and say "excuse me"
~No slamming doors

Lay out the consequences for not following the rules. She may get a time out, she may have to go home early, she may even not be allowed to come back over.

It's your house. You are the adult. Yes, she's a guest in your home, but she's still a child. And she's a child who needs to understand that when you visit someone you have to show them respect. She may not have been taught that, or she may be testing your boundaries. Either way, she's a child in your care and you are allowed to correct her behavior to a point.

Perhaps you should plan some outdoor activities for the girls to enjoy. It sounds like this girl has a lot of energy to burn off. Come up with play dates that involve a lot of running and movement. The girls will sleep well that night, and her mother may bless you.

Heather in AK