Hi - So sorry for the isolation/overwhelmed feeling.  I too was in your shoes until recently.  My husband and I have been married for 6 1/2 years.  We have moved several times and I had to really push my former shy self out to meet new people.  It was really hard to do this without kids.  I would search and ask everyone about newcomer groups in the large cities we lived in in OH, IN and KY.  I would join and actually go---I promise you if you push yourself out - it will energize you!  THEN we moved to a small town in KY.  We soon became parents to a newborn.  Everyone in this town was related to everyone else.  Nothing to do but go stroll thru our one WalMArt and One Lowes!  But we did it!  People seemed more friendly twd me with a child! Then a Starbucks opened in our tiny town.  I would pack her up and go hang out ther for an hour - just to be out in public and help with my isolation/depression.  It was the best medicine.  THEN when she was 18 months old (only 3 months ago) we took a new job here in Louisiana.  I searched and searched and heard about this site.  Then I found a group in my area.  Then I posted on line all the time - it too helped with the isolation/depression.  I complained enough that there was never any follow thru with playgroup planning (unless they planned it ofline and did not invite others)  Then - another member ran into a group at a local library story time!  She contacted me thru email and we quickly joined another Mom's group.  It has been 2 months.  I have attended at least 3 events with the Mom's group each week.  Some weeks more!  I hosted a family night at my house - pot luck and there were 35 that came!  I hosted a "Happy Birthday Jesus Party" last week and there were 37!!!  Yes - Mom's and kids were spread out all over my house and my 20 month old daughter was into everything!  But - it was a blast!!!  So my advice is to keep searching - try the sites meetup.com, and momslikeme.com.   There will be something out there for you.  Just grit your teeth and go - knowing you, your child and husband will benefit from it.  I know it is not easy - but after being confined in a tiny town and all I did was complain - I promised myself if I got to a larger city - I would push myself out there to all things available.  I too understand the working husband.  Mine makes an awesome living for us - but is away from home about 13 hours per day.  When he comes home most days it is only an hour before I rock our daughter to sleep - sure he may start out rocking her - but I end up being the one to get her to sleep.  Then he turns in shortly after and the next day starts over again.  So - I left most boxes still unpacked, my closet, pantry and drawers area a mess since moving here a couple of months ago.  Dinner is not cooked every night nor is the house perfectly clean - but I do have a happy husband who is proud of his happy wife.  Thank you for posting and allowing me to share.  It really helped me sharing this with you!
Thanks----Tina

Tina