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HOw do I control my 4 1/2 year old.
PLEASE HELP,
My son Chetley has ran away from Preschool twice within 1 week. I even moved him to a different preschool. I have told him tell I was blue in the face that he can not do this. My son has always been a good kid until about a week ago. Now he is spitting, hitting kicking, and talking back. And running away from school he has never ran away from home. WHat is going on please help, how do I control him???
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I know it might not be possible, but maybe he needs to spend more time with you-maybe he's not ready for preschool. I'm not sure what your situation is or was before, but if he's been with you up until now, and now he's going to preschool it sounds like at least a few days a week, maybe this is the problem. If you can't take him out of preschool and just put him in starting once a week and gradually ease into it, I would guess it's a phase and he will hopefully get used to it. At least that's what it sounds like to me. Children don't really like change, but he'll learn eventually-it might just take him some extra time. That can be really scary though! If he's been in daycare or at least preschool for a while and was fine, then I would suggest that something happened and you need to figure out what. I would arrange a meeting with the school teachers, aides and administration to try to get to the bottom of it. Maybe they have some answers, or they can find out-it could even have something to do with another student.
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I agree spend lots of time with him not beside him. I mean quality time. Then let me ask you why he is running away from preschool? The real reason. You know the reason deep inside. I would address that. If you don't know the reason, he does. He seems angry. I would figure out why he is angry. Then help him fix it. In the mean time don't let him get away with spitting, hitting and running away. He needs an appropriate consequence. Loss of TV time, play time with a friend, going to the park. Whatever is appropriate and is what is his currency. Tell him up front what will happen if he does it again and most important follow through. Don't take anything away that isn't appropriate and isn't something you will follow through with. Talk to him and tell him that you want to help him with his anger and that what he is doing isn't okay when he is angry. Give him some better strategies for his anger.. www.createyourfamilyheritage.com
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I agree with the other girls. It sounds like something is REALLY bothering him. He needs his mommy. I didn't put either of my sons in pre-school and they turned out okay. That isn't to say that those that send their children to pre-school are bad. It is simply to say that sometimes they are not ready to be away from mom yet.
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