Question
how to deal with the biological parents feeding there kids with terrible things to do to and at your house.
I am going to be the step mom of twin girls who are almost 4 and a 6year old boy , there mom has them throwing fits when they are droped off or picked up she says she dose not dissapline them at home she tells them lies about myself and there dad i have 2 children of my own a 6year old girl and a 5 year old boy i am so at my wits end there dad and i have been getting into fights over the kids i really just would like some advice
Read more: 
2 Answers
It will be hard, but you need to sit down with their father and tell him how you feel about it. Just tell him you feel left out of the decision making and that if you are going to be helping to raise them you need to be more involved. Let him know that you love them and you need to come up with some set rules in your home for all of the children not just your biological ones. See if you can get him to help you make a list of house rules that will be for all of the children while they are there. You will still have problems with the mother, but as longas you and the father are consistent, the kids will eventually settle down when they are with you. Good luck.
Andrea Hair
Stuff 'N Cuddle Animal Workshops
www.noahsarkworkshop.com/andreahair_s7608
Andrea Hair
Stuff 'N Cuddle Animal Workshops
www.noahsarkworkshop.com/andreahair_s7608
I agree with the answer above. Having biological kids who had to adjust to having a stepfather, I would also encourage you to talk to your husband where the discipline is concerned. He should be the one disciplining his biological children if he is around to do so. Only if he is gone should you be doing the disciplining. The kids should know this up front. If he is not the biological father to your other two children, then you should be disciplining them if at all possible. You aren't going to get rid of the problems with the mother anytime soon. So you have to go at it from another angle. The children's father needs to let his children know it will not be tolerated in your home and to put his foot down on the kids' behavior. If you are trying to be the main enforcer of discipline on your stepchildren you are probably going to make the situation worse in the long run. If your husband will do the discipline, your stepchildren will eventually learn to trust and respect you as well. Right now they could rebel against you because they see you as a threat against their mother.