Any tricks or idea on what works for you ?
I've tried to calm him down by the tone of my voice...
Talk about the wys he acted after a tantrums...
I want to keep my calm, but It getting to me...
Please share some ideas.
Thank you
I usually ignore him while he's throwing the tantrum and then ask him if he's finished when he stops. This can go on for a few minutes, but it usually ends better than if I tried to step in and stop it. If he knows he's not going to get any attention for the tantrum, it will usually dissuade him to throw one in the first place.
My son is almost 19 months, and very much all boy. Here's what I do...after I've given him several warnings (I figure 3 strikes type thing), I sit him in his chair in the kitchen next to the refrigerator, and set my kitchen timer. It's magnetic (obviously stuck on the refrigerator), so I move it down to his eye level. I set it for 1 minute (it's supposed to be 1 minute for every year...I suppose I could add on another 30 seconds now), and he has to sit still for the entire minute. He can't get off the chair, and if he does...the time restarts. When the timer goes off, his punishment is over. He gets a big hug and kiss, and gets to go play. With the timer being digital, he can actually see it counting down. Hope this helps or at least gives you a few ideas.
TOTALLY IGNORE HIM and walk away. As they get older, they learn to manipulate the time outs then you have a BIG problem on your hands. Mine are 18 and 15, ignoring the "temper tantrums" still works Good luck!
Great advice! I am learning to do this with my daughter (who's 3 next week). And it does work. She has quickly learned that if I walk away, that means the "discussion" is over and she generally tends to stop crying/whining/screaming and just go back to whatever she was doing. There are occasions when she will keep it up anyway. That's usually when she's really tired or has been having a trying day. In those cases, I actually pick her up and cuddle with her for a few minutes. She calms down, then she'll often try to go back to asking for whatever I said no to that caused the tantrum in the first place. But then a gentle no does the trick and she knows I mean it!
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I usually ignore him while he's throwing the tantrum and then ask him if he's finished when he stops. This can go on for a few minutes, but it usually ends better than if I tried to step in and stop it. If he knows he's not going to get any attention for the tantrum, it will usually dissuade him to throw one in the first place.
Anita Burnham
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My son is almost 19 months, and very much all boy. Here's what I do...after I've given him several warnings (I figure 3 strikes type thing), I sit him in his chair in the kitchen next to the refrigerator, and set my kitchen timer. It's magnetic (obviously stuck on the refrigerator), so I move it down to his eye level. I set it for 1 minute (it's supposed to be 1 minute for every year...I suppose I could add on another 30 seconds now), and he has to sit still for the entire minute. He can't get off the chair, and if he does...the time restarts. When the timer goes off, his punishment is over. He gets a big hug and kiss, and gets to go play. With the timer being digital, he can actually see it counting down. Hope this helps or at least gives you a few ideas.
TOTALLY IGNORE HIM and walk away. As they get older, they learn to manipulate the time outs then you have a BIG problem on your hands. Mine are 18 and 15, ignoring the "temper tantrums" still works
Good luck!
Great advice! I am learning to do this with my daughter (who's 3 next week). And it does work. She has quickly learned that if I walk away, that means the "discussion" is over and she generally tends to stop crying/whining/screaming and just go back to whatever she was doing. There are occasions when she will keep it up anyway. That's usually when she's really tired or has been having a trying day. In those cases, I actually pick her up and cuddle with her for a few minutes. She calms down, then she'll often try to go back to asking for whatever I said no to that caused the tantrum in the first place. But then a gentle no does the trick and she knows I mean it!
Patti
SAHM in SoCal and administrator of the Sleep Forum group, http://www.mothersclick.com/group/sleep-forum
Patti
SAHM in SoCal and administrator of the Sleep Forum group, http://www.mothersclick.com/group/sleep-forum and Tri-Counties Moms, http://www.mothersclick.com/moms-club/tri-counties-moms-sb-ventura-slo-c...