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Have you ever heard of this- and what would cause it ??
My best friend called me on Thursday- she was 19 weeks pregnant and her water broke- and her baby died ... I am now pregnant myself and I have had such a difficult time getting this way that this freaked me out - has anyone heard about this - or knows what can cause this??
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I have a friend who was about six or seven months pregnant, and she went to the doctor and they couldn't hear the heartbeat, and she had to deliver a stilborn. She never told me what could have caused it but i will keep you in my prayers.
Yeah, that's pretty much exactly what you don't want to tell an already freaked out mother-to-be.....
Except for the prayers for her! That is always a wonderful thing!!! It is very kind of you.
Every pregnancy, mother and baby are different, Talyavered. Sometimes there are explanations and sometimes there aren't. Just try to concentrate on the fun things while pregnant to keep yourself calm and stress-free for the baby growing inside of you. It's what I try to do instead of think of all that can go wrong.
Go to the "Due in March 2010" club and play the Pregnancy Alphabet game with us!!! FUN THINGS!
I don't know, but I'm sure if you tried looking it up online with a search engine, you'd find about a billion things to freak you out about it.
This is the very best advice I can give you regarding being freaked out while pregnant:
1) Stay away from looking things up on the computer. Not only will you read a bunch of INCORRECT diagnosis and opinions, but you will go nuts with obsessing about everything you read because you'll be convinced it's happening/going to happen to you. I know this because I did it all the time with my first pregnancy and still so at time being 18 weeks pregnant now. It's SO easy to me to worry about things that it's borderline I-need-therapy kind of obsessing, in fact, I've thought about talking to someone about how much I worry.
When you are worried about something, ask your doctor. It is most likely going to be much more reliable information than what you'll find online.
What I WOULD look up online, to stay relaxed and happy and enjoying this experience: baby products, baby clothes, fun pregnancy chats, take fun quizzes like those gender predicting quizzes for fun!
When I get worried about things, the fastest way to get my mind off of all the potentially scary things that can happen is by reading about safetly things for babies....things I can do to try to make things safer for my baby instead of worry, worry, worry.
Things like reviewing baby products and their safety. Making sure there's no BPA, they're phlalate free, reviewing the toxin levels of baby lotions, diaper rash ointments, shampoos on consmeticdatabase.com (I refered to that website a MILLION times when trying to decide which brand of product to buy for my baby and for myself while pregnant).
So, there are a ton of things you can do while pregnant instead of worrying
I am so sorry to hear about your friend's loss. It's something that I, myself, have had many fears about and pray to God that we get through this 2nd pregnancy I'm in now, as safely, healthy and happily as possible.
We never know what life will bring, we can just pray
Excellent suggestions by PolkadotBunnies!
I agree, stay away from checking things out online. I'm lucky that my oldest is going to be 14 soon and back then not everyone had Internet and there wasn't a lot of "information" out there.
Instead focus on things that are positive and remember that if anything doesn't feel right to call the doctor. Now that you're pregnant though, there's no reason for you to do anything that you don't feel comfortable doing so take it easy and ask your doctor what your physical limitations should be or if there even are any!
Sometimes things like that happen and even doctors can't explain why, it's sad and awful when that happens, my heart goes out to your friend and my prayers are with you that you will have a healthy pregnancy!
I'm so sorry about your friend. Just to add my agreement, it's true, there are lots of things that can cause this. The thing I've always found most reassuring is the regular check-ups with the OB. It's so nice to hear the heartbeat and know your little one is thriving. I TOTALLY agree to stay off the Internet and do NOT make yourself crazy trying to find possible causes.
Instead, focus on continuing to take good care of yourself. Eat right, get plenty of rest, take your vitamins. And try not to stress too much because a pregnant body does not need too much stress!