o my god no i am from a blended family and grown up was very hard but my mom and step dad never made us be around eachother it was up to us and now i love my step bro and siss it is great i am not saying that i like them when i was younger but i like them more then my full bro i think b/c i had to spend a lot my time with him
~Jennifer~
It seems like it would be good for all the kids to have time alone with their respective parents sometimes. I've never been in this situation, though, so I don't have firsthand experience. But I know that, especially when it's new, it can be hard for kids to adjust, and sometimes they just need to feel "back to normal" for awhile. It's important they feel like they're all part of the same family, but it seems like forcing might just create unwanted problems, and they might resent one another.
Forced activities are never welcome...blended family or not. Just relax and let everyone be themselves. I would make sure that there are opportunities for the whole family to enjoy together, but everyone needs their own space sometimes. Forcing everyone to be "one happy family" all the time will only build resentment in everyone, parents included.
My kids are all adopted, it's not quite a blended family, but I make sure they know they need to show up for familytime activities. This way they have their own space, but reinforces the idea that we are a family. Nice to share.
J:)
I think the children should not be forced together for one reason the other parent may start to become jealous and that can be a big mess, or they just may not like each other.Therefore let them naturally graviate toward each other.
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o my god no i am from a blended family and grown up was very hard but my mom and step dad never made us be around eachother it was up to us and now i love my step bro and siss it is great i am not saying that i like them when i was younger but i like them more then my full bro i think b/c i had to spend a lot my time with him
~Jennifer~
It seems like it would be good for all the kids to have time alone with their respective parents sometimes. I've never been in this situation, though, so I don't have firsthand experience. But I know that, especially when it's new, it can be hard for kids to adjust, and sometimes they just need to feel "back to normal" for awhile. It's important they feel like they're all part of the same family, but it seems like forcing might just create unwanted problems, and they might resent one another.
Patti
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Forced activities are never welcome...blended family or not. Just relax and let everyone be themselves. I would make sure that there are opportunities for the whole family to enjoy together, but everyone needs their own space sometimes. Forcing everyone to be "one happy family" all the time will only build resentment in everyone, parents included.
My kids are all adopted, it's not quite a blended family, but I make sure they know they need to show up for familytime activities. This way they have their own space, but reinforces the idea that we are a family. Nice to share.
J:)
I think the children should not be forced together for one reason the other parent may start to become jealous and that can be a big mess, or they just may not like each other.Therefore let them naturally graviate toward each other.