Am I spoiling 3 mo. old?
I have a 3 month old who gets fussy when put down (in bouncy seat; swing; activity mat, etc...) and always wants to be held by someone and constantly moving. I have a hard time getting the smallest task (like going to the bathroom) done when he is awake. I understand baby's require a lot of attention, but good grief!! Everyone keeps telling me I'm spoiling him and shouldn't keep picking him up when he gets fussy and cries and should just let him cry it out. But I've let him cry and he gets so worked up that he hyperventilates and chokes and I can't let him do that. I'm torn as to what I should do. Is he too young to be given too much attention? If I keep letting him cry will he eventually make the connection that we can't always get what we want? I don't know what to do anymore and would appreciate any suggestions. Thanks!!!
Click to add these tags to your Interests:
Read more: 
5 Answers
You can't spoil a 3 month old. However, you have to be able to stay sane, and bathroom breaks are necessary. Lots of babies at this age get colic. It's caused by gas, and the simple fix is that there are infant gas relief drops. These are wonderful! You might want to give them a try. Of course your baby probably still wants to be held, but if he's having pain on top of that want then going to sleep is more difficult. If you can remove that discomfort, then you let him cry it out.
If something else is wrong, talk to your pediatrician and see if he/she has any suggestions.
You can't spoil a 3 month old. I agree with the gas drops and possible colic. Talk to you pediatrian. If you are using formula, you may have to change brands. That worked for my sister. My daughter was breastfed so I I had to watch my diet. Some things I ate effected her. You can also try a snuggly carrier. That will help you get small tasks done while carrying him.
Smile, it increases your face value!
Jodi
Smile, it increases your face value! :)
Jodi
My daughter was held almost constantly as an infant and it always amazed me how many people said, "You should put her down. You are spoiling her." I now have a very happy, independent three year old.
You may want to look at Dr. Sears' site www.askdrsears.com. I read his books cover to cover! You truly can't spoil a baby. There is no such thing as too much holding. Some babies are just "high need" or "high touch" babies. They need to be held. The mom above said try a Snugglie, but I think slings are better for high need kids because they feel more connected to you. If you don't have any stores in your area that carry slings, there are tons of web sites for slings and I've also seen them on eBay. They are very easy to use. Good luck.
My second child was a 'hold me' baby in every sense. I remember the frustration of feeling the inability to do minor things like shower, bathroom break, eat a meal, etc. Yes this may be a gas issue to which I would say, make sure that you get a good burp after feedings, keep your baby upright for around 30 minutes to be sure that you are getting the air out. Gas drops can also help when given at the right time.
This also might not be a gas issue, my son was a reflux baby, and being upright and held just seemed to feel better on his little body. Also he was simply a clingy child which was just his little personality.
The not so good news. This will be a busy time for you. Swings, bouncies, jolly jumpers, may all give you some temporary relief. But your baby needs more of you at this time.
The good news. This will not last forever. My high needs baby needed a lot less of me when he hit around the 5 month mark and we sitting up on his own. He is now 2 and is by far my most affectionate and snuggly child which is a wonderful thing to have.
Hang in there. You will survive. When you look back, the time that you sacrificed for you baby now will reward your relationship with him in the future.
You can not spoil a 3 month old....just ENJOY your baby!
Dont worry about all that!
www.marykay.com/brennaallphin
www.marykay.com/brennaallphin