10 month old havimg trouble going to sleep
i am going out of my mind. my 10 month old daughter who rarely has sleeping thru the night issues now has going to bed issues. i have nights were it takes me over 2hrs to get her down. I have tried crying it out - that just turns into a sob fest which gets her even more worked up to the point she throws up, I have tried wearing her down in a carrier, rocking like crazy, rubbing her back, playing her music box, walking, just about everything. She will be asleep snoring in my arms and I put her down and she is screaming. I never have this problem with naps. In fact, I can put her down awake and she falls asleep. But if I do it at night, it is insanely crazy. We have a good routine and this really has only been going on the last month. I am at my wits end. I end up leaving the room exhausted and in tears. Does anyone have any advice?
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I feel for you! I found your post because I was looking for advice about 10 month olds who won't go down at night. My daughter would always go down in the crib, awake and have no problem falling asleep- no music, nothing. For the past 3 days, it has taken me over an hour to get her to fall asleep. When I leave the room, she cries to the point of insanity and sits up or stands up. I am assuming that it's a separation anxiety thing. She is also now doing it with naps too. I left her room tonight crying after I stood there for half an hour! Maybe we just need to wait it out?!?
HI there susannoel29-
that is exactly what my daughter does too. It has been almost 1 whole month and I am about at my wits end. I have had two nights last week and two nights so far this week that have been fine. But after about 2 hours of sleeps she wakes up again. I can deal with that a little bit better than the taking a long time to go down. I have decided it is either one of two things: seperation anxiety or that she is going thru so much growth right now. I have my question also posted on a sleep forum group to see if they have any advice. Hang in there. I know how frustrating it is. My only consolation is that this soon will pass and we will be on to another issue. LOL
Mommy to beautiful Avery Jane
Mommy to beautiful Avery Jane
My son had very bad colic. It made me very very crazy. On the advice of my grandmother I took my son to a pediatric chiropractor. It was like someone flipped a switch. Suddenly he only cried when he was dirty or hungry. For the first time ever he started sleeping through the night. Only lasted a week between visits though. I still take him to a chiropractor because every time I think he's old enough and we don't need it any more he gets sick and doesn't sleep so well. I take him in and he starts sleeping like a rock again. You might want to try it and see if it makes a differencein your case. Just be sure you don't go to a regular chiropractor. Try to find one who is trained for pediatric chiropractic. Another thing I find works well for my son is that if he is over tired I can't get him down. If I wrap him tight in a blanket so he can't thrash and hold him he's out in under 10 ionutes.
My first daughter was having trouble going to bed at night too and it drove me crazy! Then a preschool teacher recommended a wonderful book called "Is my child overtired" by Dr. Wilchoff. It really helped us deal with the bedtime routine and it also helped us realize that a lot of the time our child was just overtired! It went much easier with our second daughter because we knew what signs to look for when she got tired and what to do about it. The book also has a chart to tell you how much sleep your child needs at certain ages and that's when we could see she just wasn't getting enough sleep, peroid. We were putting our first child to bed at 10 pm every night and now we realize that was much too late for her! To this day we don't let our kids stay up past 8 pm and it has worked like a charm. Good luck to you all!!
I had the same problem with my son (now 14 months old). I figured it was separation anxiety and I just had to be patient. What I did was I kept the same routine but just rocked him and sang to him before putting him in his crib. Then, obvisouly once I put him in his crib he would start crying so then I just sat in the rocking chair and waited until he would fall asleep. I wouldn't talk to him, nor look at him, sometimes I would just say "shh, it's ok, go to sleep". Some days it took about an hour before I could leave the room, but I didn't want to let him cry desperately (which would happen if I tried to leave the room) so I just patiently waited... It took about 2 months to pass but it eventually did
good luck! 
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Thanks for all the posts. I really appreciate it. We have had 3 good nights ina row, so maybe this is coming to an end. Then I can be on to the next issue....
Mommy to beautiful Avery Jane
Mommy to beautiful Avery Jane
I have a 10 month old daughter with the exact same problem. She would go down fine for naps, but bedtime all of the sudden became this drawn out experience, and she cries and throws up if I try to let her cry it out. We still don't know what to do - I've tried sitting in the room until she falls asleep - she just continues to cry and stand up in her crib reaching for me. So now - she falls asleep every night lying with my me or her daddy. I don't want this to continue - but I don't know what to do.
Kelly Stoudt
I am in exactly the same boat. My daughter is 10 months old and this has only been happening for about 1-2 weeks. She is usually near perfect. I'll put her down awake and it might take me once or twice to go in a say bed time and she is out but for some reason in the last two weeks it has taken me anywhere from 1 - 2 hours to put her to sleep. Ending in me singing ringer ringer rosie to get her to sleep. In my arms I might add. I am kind of getting frustrated with it, trying to justify why it's happening and saying to my husband that we are the ones that should be the boss and are we letting her win by getting her out of her cot. But by reading the above comments maybe it is separation anxiety and i just have to wait till it passes i guess. No answers but is there.