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I hear you Anita. Until probably about 7 months ago, when Emma was around 2 1/2 or so, I rarely had time for this kind of thing either. It seems like I just finally reached a point where I did have time, so now here I am. Plus, I don't work outside the home, and I know you do. That makes a huge difference. I guess you could say I'm a little bored these days too, but that's only until we find a new place to live and then all the moving busyness starts! (That and my MIL has actually been doing most of the cooking...she doesn't want anyone else in her kitchen. It certainly gives me more free time in the afternoons, but it's driving me crazy because I want to do the cooking for my own family like I am used to doing.)

Sex, hmm. I guess you just have to get creative. It takes extra effort, but you might have to find another (ahem) location in the house while your child is sleeping. If you're not too afraid of him waking up and don't want to go to another room, you could try the floor (this can be awkward though...best to move to a different room in my opinion). If you're afraid of him rolling out of bed, make a pillow fort all around him. If he has a history of rolling out of bed and you're really not comfortable, you might invest in a couple of rails for your bed. Or move it against the wall if that's an option and make sure he's close to the wall with pillows along the other side and on the floor...just in case. Or just get him into his own bed for a little while each night and take advantage of that time. Bottom line: as long as your child is safe, you can get creative and find ways. It's when this starts to feel like too much work and your love life is in danger of suffering when you really have to consider making the switch once and for all.

Patti
SAHM in SoCal and administrator of the Sleep Forum group, http://www.mothersclick.com/group/sl...

HI Ladies-
I was just thinking about you all the other day and thought I should check in. Besides all fighting a cold, we have been well and mostly sleeping. Avery has been fighting naptime like crazy, but night time seems to have become better with only an occassional wakeup every few weeks. I did find out that she is experiencing night terrors. That has been an interesting thing. Have any of your children experienced this.
I think weekly questions would be a great idea. It could help generate conversations. I get busy and forget to check up on the website, Busy doing what, I don't know, because my days just fly by anymore and I still get nothing accomplished. I don't even know how I would exist if I had to work. I guess you just do, right?
Regarding Anita's question, we moved Avery to her room at 4 months because of that, so I wish I had suggestions. But like Patti said, be creative. That might even spice things up a bit, thinking of "where" to get your mojo on! Like it is forbidden or something! LOL....
Mommy to beautiful Avery Jane

Joe and I actually had a date on Sunday and I wanted to stop in an obscure location before we got home because my girlfriend was going to spend the night after we got back (she was watching him). But my husband was tired and couldn't find a spot! I know it was Sunday (he's a pastor and preaches 3 times on Sundays, so he's exhausted) but we didn't have to take soooo long! Anyway, yes, we've been creative, but right now, Robbie sleeps in between the two of us and wakes up if we move him at all. We just need to get over the where part and just do it!

Anita Burnham
www.anitaburnham.com

Patti-
Thanks for the link and info about night terrors. It was really weird when it happened and I just thought she was too upset and couldn't calm down. It has happened twice and now that I recognize it, I know not to pick her up and try and comfort her and that it will pass. It was just so weird to see her standing in her crib, screaming, eyes wide open, yet when I tried to soothe her, nothing helped. I almost didn't say anything to the doctor about it and then I did at the last minute and she told me all about it and how to handle them.
Adrienne
Mommy to beautiful Avery Jane