Were you hoping for the opposite gender with your 2nd baby?
A mood post from Fattypants made me wonder about this subject (thanks for the discussion idea!
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If you've had 2 children, were you hoping for the opposite gender the 2nd time around?
I'm pregnant with my 2nd and don't know the gender yet (and won't know for another 3 weeks) and I already have one very precious, beautiful, sweet baby girl.
But I just honestly don't know which gender I would choose if I had the choice with this next one.
A part of me thinks I would like to have one of each (mainly because my husband woud be happy to even out the house genders) but, after having such an incredibly precious baby girl like the one I have, my heart just aches with love when I think I could possibly be blessed with another. I just LOVE baby girls
BUT, I don't have a baby boy to compare, of course!
I'd imagine that I'd be just as smitten with a boy.....so I'm kind of torn down the middle here.
Also, if I'm having another girl, I will be VERY happy for my daughter! For her whole life, she will have her to talk to, like I have my sister, whom I can't IMAGINE life without. I have a brother too and while he is wonderful to talk to, the connection I have with my sister is different. So, my baby girl will have a life long best friend. From what I've seen and experienced, even if they fight like cats and dogs growing up, sisters grow so close when they get older. It warms my heart to think of my daughter having that.
And then, if it's a baby boy, my daughter could have a really cool relationship with him like the one I have with my brother. He was so much fun growing up with, I didn't fight with him like I did my sister at ALL, in fact, we told people we were best friends when we were little.
It's a good thing that God's making this decision because I just could not
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I love the last line in your post. Imagine if we had to make the choice! We'd go batty trying to decide. :) As for me, for as long as I can remember I have wanted a boy and a girl. I have my precious daughter who will be 5 next month, and so yes, I'd really love a boy this time (I too have a couple weeks to wait). But I'm like you, I LOVE having a daughter, and just the joy of a girl baby was so wonderful, I would definitely do it again! Ultimately I'll feel blessed no matter what we end up with, as long as he or she is as happy and healthy as big sister!
Patti
SAHM in SoCal and administrator of the Sleep Forum group, http://www.mothersclick.com/group/sleep-forum and Tri-Counties Moms, http://www.mothersclick.com/moms-club/tri-counties-moms-sb-ventura-slo-c...
Isn't it the truth about the "as long as they're happy and healthy" part?? I just never realized how incredibly true it is that that is ALL that matters when you have a baby. There are just so many things I get concerned about (I'm a little better with this 2nd baby) that I too just don't care if I have a boy or girl as long as he or she is healthy.
I got kind of annoyed the other day when talking to a friend. I, as you know, don't know the gender yet and this is how the conversation went:
"So what do you want this time?"
"A healthy baby"
"Yeah, yeah, I know, seriously, which do you want?"
It just annoyed me, the way she said it. I mean, I know she meant no offense and I also realize that that's what every parent says, but they MEAN it like I do, you know??
We just feel blessed with a human being whom we are about to love more than we can imagine!
I wouldn't say we were hoping, but everyone had us convinced it was a girl (we told the doctor not to tell us what he knew from the ultrascan). It was all old wives tales about how I was carrying the baby and what I had cravings for.
So we went into the delivery room with only the name Angela picked out. Imagine our surprise when the doc said, it's a boy! Oops.
Wow! You didn't even doubt them! That's a leap of faith to only have a girl's name based on old wive's tales!
How long did it take to name him?
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I wanted to have four boys, always wanted boys, I am a twin, and my sister and I were complete opposite, needless to say I was closer growing up with my brother than my sister(now, i am extremely close to my sister),
I had my first which was a boy, I got pregnant with my second, I still wanted a boy, but I found out it was going to be a girl, I was so excited and nervous because i was a tomboy. My mother was very excited, maybe she will get to have a girlie girl around, finally. And now, my daughter has taught me so very much about being a girlie girl, I even like pink now! She has taught me how to be more appreciative about showing love and recieving love. She is the most gentle creature that I know, she cries for me when I have a bad day. she is the first person to pick me up. She tells me,"Mom, I know you still love me even when you are mad at me" My boys have taught me how to be more concrete in my thinking and they keep me grounded, but my daughter has taught me to dream.
So, my daughter was the best thing that ever has happened to me, even though I never knew I wanted one.
chrgrgrl, your comments gave me goosebumps. It's amazing to be able to appreciate the different things our kids bring to the table, and to learn from them. Girls are pretty amazing. My daughter is something of a tomboy, and super active like usually boys are, but she also loves pink and LOVES to wear dresses! She is all girl and it has been fun watching her develop that feminine side all on her own...I have never pushed the pink and the frilly stuff, she just gravitates to some of it naturally. I love that!
Patti
SAHM in SoCal and administrator of the Sleep Forum group, http://www.mothersclick.com/group/sleep-forum and Tri-Counties Moms, http://www.mothersclick.com/moms-club/tri-counties-moms-sb-ventura-slo-c...
Awwww, Chrgrgrl, that is absoultely precious
I'm so happy for you!
Isn't it amazing who God puts into our lives that changed them forever?
Blessings to you and your family
Oftentimes a girl has a close and happy relationship with a younger brother so yes, I did hope for a boy a few times. But all my biological children are girls, and my only son is adopted.
Mother of 18, soon to be 20
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Your friend,
Well, I have a beautiful 5 1/2 yr. old son who is the joy of my life and the love you get from a son is like no other! My son is my angel and I honestly do not care what my next child will be because either way, it is a true blessing to even have a child. My son would love a little brother and he would play with him and love him to death but if it were a little sister, well, let's just say that he has gotten into trouble over some of the things he would do to her, like put her outside, throw her in the pool, hide her in the refrigerator and flush her down the toilet, just to name a few! Yes, it really bothers me that he thinks like that and I always wonder where the ideas come from as well, but I think no matter what it will be, he will love it to death because it will be his younger sibling, a baby that he can look at, touch, cuddle, help take care of, etc, and he gets lonely I think, I mean daddy and I can play for hours with him but it's nothing like another child to play with and for my husband and I. he would like a girl and I just want to have a healthy child, boy or girl ;)
