Raising Kids While Working
This group is for all moms and soon- to- be mommas who work at home or who desire to be home with their kids. It is such a blessing to have children, why should we not be able to raise them on our own while still having an income. I can help you get home with your kids too and live financially how you want! Lets let eachother know our experiences!
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Jun 16, 2009
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Does anyone else feel extremely GUILTY when having to go away for work
I raise my stepchildren (although I don't like the word "step"- I just say my kids) and now have one little baby at home, about to turn 1, and another one the way. I have never felt so guilty leaving for work trips as I did after having my first child. I guess I didn't feel bad when I used to have to go away and leave the older kids at home because they were used to just living with their dad, even though they miss me a lot especially at homework time. But with the baby, she doesn't understand where I am and then when I get back home she's super clingy. I hate it. My husband says she cries a lot when I'm gone. Honestly, I just wish we could all be rich enough to not have to work away from our babies.
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I had to take a couple of extended trips when my son was little and it was really tough. And ONCE, heaven forbid, I went on a fun weekend with my girlfriends -- needless to say, it was no fun. I was worried the whole time. Husband kept calling with silly questions. I was a mess.
Kids need their moms, but you gotta do what you gotta do, right?
I ocassionally have to travel and I didn't think I'd ever be able to do it but once I leave I just focus on what I'm there to do (in my case it's conferences mostly). I have a son who is almost 14 and he texts me if he thinks I should know anything that his dad won't tell me LOL! I was really worried about our littlest the first time I went away because I'm home with him about 90% of the time. He did great!
For what it's worth, it's normal for the one year old to be super clingy when you get back and cry when you leave. The older kids can help by playing with her more and diverting her attention from the fact that you're not there. When you get home, don't do anything else for a few days until the little one has adjusted to your return.
I know it's hard but the one thing I ask my husband is not to tell me if the little one gets upset when I'm gone. I also did this when I worked full time out of the home. My husband and I made an agreement with the sitter that if they had any "firsts" while one of us was at work, we wouldn't say anything so that the other parent could still have the "first" experience. Does that make sense? Maybe you could do something similar if you feel like you're missing out.
I'm probably not much help because since I'm working at home, I really enjoy the time away from them when I can get it!
Hugs to you though, it will get easier.
I feel for you. If you have computers at home you can do a video link up (like Skype) and interact with your kids via computer maybe during your lunch time. You can also create videos to show your kids when you're gone, you could include a story time, sing a song, even play simple games on your video. And tell them how much you love them and will be home soon. You can also keep a family journal, so when they miss you they can write notes to you and you can answer them back.
I have three kids and one day I made the decision to find a way to work from home, but it took me about a year before I could leave my job. It was a process!There are some real work from home options, but be careful a lot of scams out there! If it's too good or easy it's a scam. Check out my ehow.com article http://www.ehow.com/how_5578343_work-now-being-scammed.html
Good luck!
J:)
I have 2 boys 7 years old and 10 months. I have been blessed to be able to stay home with both of them. My husband is in the Army and I am greatful that I can travel around the world with him but take my job with me!! I would feel so gulity is I had to leave them all the time with someone new while I worked.
Karen Briones
www.workathomeunited.com/extramoney4u